My girlfriend had recently broken up with me and I wasn’t handling it well. I was struggling to the point where I couldn’t do my job properly. Sitting at my desk with stomach pains, finding it hard to breathe, I realized I had to tell my boss. His response shocked me beyond words.

I laid out the whole emotional mess and didn’t hold back, telling him I was depressed to the point where I couldn’t perform. He thought about this for a while. “The most important thing right now…” he replied, taking a long pause. “… Is that we deliver your current project within the deadline. How can we make sure that happens?”

“The most important thing right now… is that we deliver your current project within the deadline”
— A boss, not a leader

I was stunned and had no idea how to respond before a few seconds passed. I gave him a good enough solution, all while thinking I could not believe how that was his main priority. That was the end for me. There was no way I was staying after that.

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