The Neural Grind

In the trenches of the neural tug-of-war

Category: Personal Growth

When Was the Last Time Your Guilty Conscience Helped You?

A guilty conscience is a strange thing. Our brain is telling us something isn’t right and it can be difficult to pinpoint the underlying reason. If left unchecked, that uneasiness can prevent us from living a full life.

There’s nothing more useless than harboring a guilty conscience. It does no good except for the sweet relief of getting rid of it. So why are so many letting such a useless feeling get in the way of happiness?

Guilt is cancer. Guilt will confine you, torture you, destroy you as an artist. It’s a black wall. It’s a thief. Dave Grohl

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I write about personal growth, psychology, leadership, relationships and soft skills at The Neural Grind.

If You Don’t Put Your Employees First, You’re Not a Leader

My girlfriend had recently broken up with me and I wasn’t handling it well. I was struggling to the point where I couldn’t do my job properly. Sitting at my desk with stomach pains, finding it hard to breathe, I realized I had to tell my boss. His response shocked me beyond words.

I laid out the whole emotional mess and didn’t hold back, telling him I was depressed to the point where I couldn’t perform. He thought about this for a while. “The most important thing right now…” he replied, taking a long pause. “… Is that we deliver your current project within the deadline. How can we make sure that happens?”

“The most important thing right now… is that we deliver your current project within the deadline”
— A boss, not a leader

I was stunned and had no idea how to respond before a few seconds passed. I gave him a good enough solution, all while thinking I could not believe how that was his main priority. That was the end for me. There was no way I was staying after that.

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I write about personal growth, psychology, leadership, relationships and soft skills at The Neural Grind.

Why Stupid People Succeed More Often Than You

Why Stupid People Succeed More Often Than YouA friend of mine says the same thing when confronted with people enjoying success: “Why do so many stupid people get ahead in this world?

It’s the latest pop sensation chewing bubblegum. The new loudmouthed sales rep who’s landed a big deal, or the CEO who doesn’t even know when to use “your” and “you’re”.

Upon closer inspection though, he doesn’t really think they are stupid. They just seem like that to him. They’re loud, unrestrained and have no problem laughing at themselves.

To people who consider themselves smart, it’s easier to call someone too direct and outgoing “simple-minded”. Surely, the smartest men are composed, calm and weigh every word before they speak.

Well, no. And even if they were, for the sake of argument — so what?

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I write about personal growth, psychology, leadership, relationships and soft skills at The Neural Grind.

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